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How to deal with an over bearing parent

Gemma McCulloch

So I reluctantly stepped forward to coach/manage my son's U8 team. It has taken me completely out of my comfort zone but we're three matches in and I have to say I'm loving it. I don't have an assistant yet so am doing the coaching and managing myself. This is all new to me and it's the first year the boys have played in a league so new to them as well. We've yet to win a game but we keep smiling and I ensure I encourage the boys to just have fun whatever the outcome. My issue is one of the dad's. Every match so far he stands on the sidelines shouting at the boys telling them what to do and where to stand. He is contradicting what I'm telling the boys and what I'm trying to encourage them to do during the match. Being a man his voice carries further than mine. This weekend he surpassed himself. After one of the quarters my team were standing on the pitch waiting for the other team so they could start the next quarter. This dad ducks under the respect line, runs onto the pitch and moves the boys to where he thinks they should be. It completely undermined me in front of the kids, parents, opposition and referee. My question is have you dealt with something similar and if so, how without causing a fall out? Any suggestions greatly received. Thanks. Gemma

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    Hi Gemma 

    firstly well done for stepping forward and i think its great having female coaches and i wish you good times .

    your voice will be more powerful within break periods of the game , just wondering have you spoken to the parents in regards what you would like to achieve with your players and how you would like your parents to support your philosophy , empower the parents to support you , unfortunately every coach gets this challenge and i know you will over come this by sticking to your beliefs , my advice is perhaps have a drive through chat with the parent (if no improvement approach your club welfare officer , from what i have read above the parent has not read the respect guidance for players and parents and coaches . perhaps highlight this to the individual , sometimes just a little nudge politely , the parent changes completely and can be a future positive outcome for all . i wish you well with your challenge    

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    Hi Gemma 

    firstly well done for stepping forward and i think its great having female coaches and i wish you good times .

    your voice will be more powerful within break periods of the game , just wondering have you spoken to the parents in regards what you would like to achieve with your players and how you would like your parents to support your philosophy , empower the parents to support you , unfortunately every coach gets this challenge and i know you will over come this by sticking to your beliefs , my advice is perhaps have a drive through chat with the parent (if no improvement approach your club welfare officer , from what i have read above the parent has not read the respect guidance for players and parents and coaches . perhaps highlight this to the individual , sometimes just a little nudge politely , the parent changes completely and can be a future positive outcome for all . i wish you well with your challenge    

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