Reward and recognition

Does awarding man of the match undermine development of children's intrinsic motivation and self worth?

Take it to the extreme - what if someone was giving out stickers for good effort or for superstar defender etc...?

Thoughts? 

Parents
  • Really like some of the ideas here

    We have a 'special ball' that we hand out at the end of each match. 
    Each player has a target that they say they want to work on and the ball is awarded to whoever the kids decide tried the best. Obviously we guide this so that everyone gets the ball but try to make it feel like the kids came to it

    Love the idea of getting parents involved too

  • Hello Darren, 

    The bit about "try to make it feel like the kids came to it"...

    That's something I'm particularly interested in and I symptomatic of a rewards systems can failing.

    If you think of it as -- it causes us grown ups to lie to children (that's extreme and provocative I know, but bear with me please)

    So we model lieing and the kids know fine rightly what's going on, or at least some of them will. So they see that it's okay to lie... 

    Or the ones that get it because we feel sorry for them... They know they haven't genuinely won that thing... 

    That's the danger anyway! Maybe you've not experienced those issues... I think it can work, but it can go wrong.

    Interested to hear what you think. 

Reply
  • Hello Darren, 

    The bit about "try to make it feel like the kids came to it"...

    That's something I'm particularly interested in and I symptomatic of a rewards systems can failing.

    If you think of it as -- it causes us grown ups to lie to children (that's extreme and provocative I know, but bear with me please)

    So we model lieing and the kids know fine rightly what's going on, or at least some of them will. So they see that it's okay to lie... 

    Or the ones that get it because we feel sorry for them... They know they haven't genuinely won that thing... 

    That's the danger anyway! Maybe you've not experienced those issues... I think it can work, but it can go wrong.

    Interested to hear what you think. 

Children
  • The way I have found works is that if one of the kids has done something really well (or tried) I make sure everyone knows about it at the interval. The positive feedback encourages the child to try it again and the rest of the team acknowledge the praise. When it comes to the end of the match, at least half of them will say "He/She did really well"  and it sorts itself out

    It's by no means a big thing, they seem to prefer the penalty shoot out at the end!

    We are u8 so the main things I find myself trying to put an emphasis on is supporting/encouraging each other (vocally) as well as the bravery on the ball stuff too

    There are a million ways to do it IMO