Hi, my child has been asked to join a better team but is reluctant to leave her current team as she has friends in it. I’ve explained that she won’t necessarily lose those friends and will gain others in this new team but she’s not buying it. It’s a good opportunity but I don’t really want to force her to do it, but at the same time don’t want her to miss out on the opportunity. Deep down she knows it a good idea but doesn’t want to let her mates down (which I can’t fault) Any ideas?
Hi Stephen,
I am a new coach just starting outU13s Girls, I was just another dad taking his girl to training and matches, but see players coming off the pitch crying from being shouted at by the coaches for making mistakes was hard to take . After splitting from this team I was asked by our new manager and parents if I would coach them as I alway gave positive feedback and encouragement. we had six girls including my daughter come across from the old team and one of the girls was torn wether to come or stay as she had a good friend at the old team. Her parents approached me and explained the situation and ask if I would talk to her, I explained that it is 1 hour of football and her friend should be happy for her who ever she plays for and if she pressuring her to stay is she really a good friend? I told her to come to our training session and try it if she feels it not for her then No pressure she can always go back to the old club! I’m happy to say she’s still with us and she’s still sees her old friends from the other club. Maybe get your daughter to go and have a trial with the new team!
all the best for the future, please let me know how it works out.
best regards,
kelvin
Hi Stephen,
I am a new coach just starting outU13s Girls, I was just another dad taking his girl to training and matches, but see players coming off the pitch crying from being shouted at by the coaches for making mistakes was hard to take . After splitting from this team I was asked by our new manager and parents if I would coach them as I alway gave positive feedback and encouragement. we had six girls including my daughter come across from the old team and one of the girls was torn wether to come or stay as she had a good friend at the old team. Her parents approached me and explained the situation and ask if I would talk to her, I explained that it is 1 hour of football and her friend should be happy for her who ever she plays for and if she pressuring her to stay is she really a good friend? I told her to come to our training session and try it if she feels it not for her then No pressure she can always go back to the old club! I’m happy to say she’s still with us and she’s still sees her old friends from the other club. Maybe get your daughter to go and have a trial with the new team!
all the best for the future, please let me know how it works out.
best regards,
kelvin
