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Chris Littlejohn

Hello all, 

Looking for some help, this is based on me as a parent watching my sons u12 team. I used to coach them, but have moved to my younger sons u9 team, and a new coach has taken over.

The problem I have is he is so aggressive with his in match instructions, and half time end of game talks. He uses words like crap and d'head amongst other things. It's really affecting the boys and they are getting angry and losing respect for him I believe, but just as a parent I don't want him shouting at my son every week, for no reason accept losing or drawing a game of football. They try their best and have great battling spirit, they don't deserve this treatment.

My question is how is it best to approach this with the coach? Who I consider a friend, and is completely different away from coaching.

Any help appreciated Thumbsup

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    Chris, I am afraid that this is one of those crucial times where we ensure the welfare and development of our young players is protected from this kind of unacceptable behaviour. This kind of attitThumbsupe, behaviour and language has no place in player development so regardless of how difficult the conversations will be action must be taken. Your welfare officer is one person to involve but it is aThumbsupo a great chance to reestablish what the club and their approach to player development is (unless it fits with this outdated way of developing players). Good luck and make sure this stopsThumbsup Pete

  • 0 in reply to Peter Sturgess

    Thanks for the replies. I will contact the clubs welfare officer first. Hopefully we can get it sorted out soon. 

  • 0 in reply to Chris Littlejohn

    Hi Chris

    This is so sad to hear but unfortunately happens all to often. I appreciate it is a difficult decision personally but it is a welfare issue. 

    As parents, the language we use has a huge impact on our children socially and psychologically.

    If I used such language as a primary school teacher, I would be reprimanded, suspended or lose my job. Looking after children has legal implications and responsibilities. This language and tone, has no place or justification in grassroots sport.

    Do the right thing by the players and your friend, and involve the club welfare officer. Safeguarding is everyone's responsibility.

    Good luck

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  • 0 in reply to Chris Littlejohn

    Hi Chris

    This is so sad to hear but unfortunately happens all to often. I appreciate it is a difficult decision personally but it is a welfare issue. 

    As parents, the language we use has a huge impact on our children socially and psychologically.

    If I used such language as a primary school teacher, I would be reprimanded, suspended or lose my job. Looking after children has legal implications and responsibilities. This language and tone, has no place or justification in grassroots sport.

    Do the right thing by the players and your friend, and involve the club welfare officer. Safeguarding is everyone's responsibility.

    Good luck

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