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Player has a tantrum when misses a shot

Jamie Toms

I have a player who gets frustrated by missing a shot, even if he's already scored he'll have a tantrum over missing one shot. Is there anything I can suggest to him to help him relax about not hitting the target?

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    I've found that this happens a lot with kids with ADHD. You may want to check in with the carers to see if there's anything in that. I have also found that this happens in kids who are incentivised by their carers to score - if you score today you get x, if you get a hat trick, you get y, if you finsih the season as top scorer you get...therefore the only value in playing and your only perception of self worth is scoring. If you don't score, you are therefore worthless, a failure.

    We've had this with several different players - a couple had ADHD but outside ot that, it stemmed from their carers - grandparents in particular. 

    We don't have a a top scorer award at our end of season awards, that has helped a lot.

    A while ago, we asked the kids to put their hands up to see how many were on a fiver a goal, how many were incentivised to play their best for the team, win the ball back etc. You can guess the result. We asked the kids to tell thier parents to change their reward from goals, to tackles or tracking back, whatever. That also helped.

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    I've found that this happens a lot with kids with ADHD. You may want to check in with the carers to see if there's anything in that. I have also found that this happens in kids who are incentivised by their carers to score - if you score today you get x, if you get a hat trick, you get y, if you finsih the season as top scorer you get...therefore the only value in playing and your only perception of self worth is scoring. If you don't score, you are therefore worthless, a failure.

    We've had this with several different players - a couple had ADHD but outside ot that, it stemmed from their carers - grandparents in particular. 

    We don't have a a top scorer award at our end of season awards, that has helped a lot.

    A while ago, we asked the kids to put their hands up to see how many were on a fiver a goal, how many were incentivised to play their best for the team, win the ball back etc. You can guess the result. We asked the kids to tell thier parents to change their reward from goals, to tackles or tracking back, whatever. That also helped.

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