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When opposition coaches start coaching your team?

David Saunders

Last season was my first season, so I learnt a lot. I coach u-12s this season.

One thing that caught me off guard was a couple of occasions when an opposition coach tried to coach my team members. On one occasion, in a friendly advising my defender to move further up the pitch for a corner and on another trying to encourage my players who were discouraged about something or other (e.g. not wanting to play the friendly.)

On both occasions I'd like to stress that the advice was delivered very pleasantly, and was very well meant and delivered in an appropriate way.

However, at a gut level I felt it was really off. Hard to explain. A bit like when a well meaning stranger comes up to your own kids when they are crying or wherever whilst you are trying to parent and tries to cheer them up. And you want to tell them to *** out.

Any thoughts on the etiquette of this sort of thing? I do think it's not something I would ever do out of respect for the other coach - its their team and they wouldn't want me interfering.

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    I personally give the opposition praise and encouragement.. not directly to get their attention unnecessarily but if they take a good shot, 'Great shot, well done' or 'Unlucky' when it's a miss lets say... but no coaches should be 'coaching' your team... we have enough with parents giving different messages to our group which then only confuses them and there coach is saying go left and the parent go right.. if the other coach is then saying go back it would be a disaster..

    Encouragement, totally!!!! Coaching, never! I'm sure a 20 second chat would nip it in the bud as if they are delivering it ins a constructive and positive manner then chances are they're a good coach/mentor and will take your comments on board in a positive manner.

  • 0 in reply to Chris Ironmonger

    fantastic reply Chris and agree with your comments other than the unlucky part , i do hear this a lot within parents and coaches , coaches i would try and minimise the word unlucky it may sound silly but the child will start to think they are unlucky , i have had lots of children suggesting they are unlucky in the phycological corner this can have a effect long term 

    its always a great effort 

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