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How to deal with the parents who intercept your training?

Xin

Hi all,

I am coaching in China and have a U7 boy elite team. So I have serval good players. By the difference of the football environment between England and China, we have a 8v8 tournament (I know they prefer to play 5v5, hope you know the difference, this is not the point what I want to discuss). So I deliver my session focus on how to build up from our back (how to receive the ball and 1v1 duel to through to the mid third) and how to create the attacking (2v1 session before we finish).

My boys perform well on these two session, and I told them if you can break out from our back, you might have more spaces to drive the ball forward and to score.

But one of my players’ father (this boy is mediocre level) always yell by the side of the training court while we trained. He always wants his son to dribble the ball to attack and requires the club and I what should be trained by his mindset. Sometimes this boy cannot follow my instructions to play. I asked him why you do that, he answered me his father told him to do that. The other thing is his father wants his son to play more important role in the team and doesn’t want to defend.

In my opinion, I want to the young players learn more like how to use strength and weakness feet, how to recognize the situation to enhance their confidence in 1v1 duel, etc.. I don’t want to they play like Man City, but they have to know how to move the ball forward in speed not only by dribbling but also by other options like passing, if the players can do that. I don’t want the parents yelling beside the court. We can discuss after training if the parents have some questions. Cause that really disturb the training.

I want to hear the advices from the coaches how to deal with the parents like that in England. And what I can try to figure it out.

Thank you.

Parents

  • Hi  

    Thank you for your question, you are not alone in this as many coaches will feel the same way and encounter vocal parents.

    Just following on from the answers already posted, something I have found to be really successful is holding pre season meetings with parents and players and explaining what you want to achieve with your team and how you plan to do this. This could include playing style, training style and your philosophy. At these meetings a key part is also identifying the standards of your team. This always includes respect between everyone, parents, coaches, players and anyone else involved.

    That way from the off, everyone is aware and in agreement of the expectations of training, the team and so on. Also, if parents aren't relaying the same message as you sharing session plans or topics in group chats (if you have them is always good) Also, when players and parents arrive to training have a whiteboard ready explaining the terminology and the topic you will be working on so everyone can relay the same information.

    Finally, I would challenge your players to relay sessions and outcomes back to parents throughout training (when they're getting a drink) so that the parents know their players understanding and what they are working on.

    Having an honest and open dialogue is key and this does take time but continue to challenge negative behaviour and put your players first.

    Thanks,
    Will

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  • Hi  

    Thank you for your question, you are not alone in this as many coaches will feel the same way and encounter vocal parents.

    Just following on from the answers already posted, something I have found to be really successful is holding pre season meetings with parents and players and explaining what you want to achieve with your team and how you plan to do this. This could include playing style, training style and your philosophy. At these meetings a key part is also identifying the standards of your team. This always includes respect between everyone, parents, coaches, players and anyone else involved.

    That way from the off, everyone is aware and in agreement of the expectations of training, the team and so on. Also, if parents aren't relaying the same message as you sharing session plans or topics in group chats (if you have them is always good) Also, when players and parents arrive to training have a whiteboard ready explaining the terminology and the topic you will be working on so everyone can relay the same information.

    Finally, I would challenge your players to relay sessions and outcomes back to parents throughout training (when they're getting a drink) so that the parents know their players understanding and what they are working on.

    Having an honest and open dialogue is key and this does take time but continue to challenge negative behaviour and put your players first.

    Thanks,
    Will

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